tears of frustration

       Well, we got the official letter from ICBF today. Basically they are requesting that we go through psychological therapy for our difficulties. When we did our MMPI test of over 500 questions Merlin's test results showed as having "low tolerance to frustration" and mine was "low self esteem"(among a large paragraph of results). I can honestly say that my struggle with low self esteem was an issue I was dealing with at the time of the test. It is not something I normally deal with. M's issue of "low tolerance" is something that he has control of, but yes, it's something he deals with. We are human beings. They make it sound as though we are a family with huge abnormal difficulties, when our original social worker gave us a great report on our home study, our 2nd social worker gave us another great report in our home study update, our psychologist gave us a good 1st report, and an even better update to our report covering these exact topics. Why do they not believe these certified educated people who have been in our home, visited with us for hours and asked hundreds of questions? Honestly, what more do they want??? It looks hopeless to get them to believe that we are a loving, happy family, but I guess we will keep plodding along. What other option do you have, because we really do want more children and our hearts are still in Colombia. I never dreamed we'd have this trouble.